What if your current difficulties offer you an opportunity to actually strengthen your relationship?
Revive My Relationship is a 6-session programme designed to help you to focus in on what’s not working in your relationship and why. In these sessions you will access personal insights, simple techniques and tools to help you to identify what’s at the core of the difficulty and how you can make some changes to overcome the gridlock. Or take your relationship to another level! Suitable for Couples & Individual clients aged 18+
Whatever you are dealing with in your relationship right now, we’re fairly sure we will have heard of couples struggling with something similar before. Our specialist therapists help individuals and couples to explore and work through a wide range of issues that are impacting their relationships. These include:
|Anxiety & Depression|
|Confidence & Self esteem|
|Fertility & Pregnancy|
|Separation & Divorce|
|Sex & Intimacy|
How Can I Revive My Relationship?
When we look for love, the goal can be to find ‘the one’ – or at least not just someone who’s ‘good enough’, or ‘all right’. And why should we.
For many people though, the relationship of their dreams has almost mystical qualities. You are connected physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. You know each other intimately, not needing to communicate with words but simply through knowing. You are ‘so on the same page’ that your preferences and opinions are always in synch, and it is hoped that the ‘butterflies’ feeling of being in love lasts forever.
In reality of course, when it comes to love, there’s usually a degree of heartache too. Unfortunately, the more someone matters to you, the more chance there is of feeling disappointment and hurt, anger, jealousy, guilt and pure frustration in response to something they’ve done or said or implied.
There is no love without hate; and there is no hate without love. The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference; the opposite of feeling can only be the absence of feeling…
Love and hate must go hand in hand; and the people we love most we hate also, because hate is grounded in the nature of loveWilhelm Stekel; Austrian psychologist (1921)
And, while it is indeed true that many of us would say that ‘compromise’ is an important part of being in a relationship, perhaps there’s still a part of you that dreams of being in a relationship that’s rather more effortless?
As relationship therapists, we see that it’s when a couple learns to deal with the ups and downs of life and the disappointment of not being with a ‘perfect soulmate’, that the foundations for an enduring relationship are laid.
Experiencing difficult feelings is a demonstration that this relationship means a lot to you. If it matters it can push you into making changes and finding ways to overcome the difficulties you didn’t think possible. Working through problems together, can help you to transcend notions of who’s right and who’s wrong, and ultimately unite the two of you, sometimes against all the odds. But it typically takes commitment to seeing it through, conscious effort, generosity and respect, not to mention a robust sense of humour, – even when you don’t want to, and for longer than you’d probably choose.
It’s up to you to decide ultimately if this relationship is worth all that, but if you’re at least open to considering that it is, we can guide you in an enquiry to find out if that’s so.
A Relationship Revival Guide
There really is no model we can present to you here, to say exactly how we can help you. However, our experience suggests that if you commit to our programme of six guided sessions with a BeLoveCurious therapist, you’ll gain significant personal insight into the issue at hand that will help you decide how to move forward.
If you’re still unsure, why not book in for a 30 minute Introductory Session with one of us, so we can together consider if this service is right for you?
‘Revive My Relationship’ Programme Outline
This is a semi-structured programme of six, one hour conversations with a BeLoveCurious Relationship Therapist. Designed to help you to focus in on what’s not working in your relationship and why, you will access useful personal insights, simple techniques and tools to help you to identify what’s at the core of the difficulty and how you can make some changes to overcome the gridlock. Suitable for Couples & Individual clients aged 18+
|Session 1||Getting to Know You||A therapist-led session in which you ‘re invited to tell us all about your relationship story so far – where you’re at, where you want to be & what you think are the barriers to being in a fulfilling relationship with your current partner.|
|Session 2||Conversations that Matter||Over the next 3 sessions we’ll be curious together about the what’s important to you here , with an emphasis on identifying ‘what’s missing’ and staying focused on the issues identified in Session 1. So if you’re here to talk about an affair, that’s where we’ll concentrate. |
At the same time, ‘curiosity’ is the key to our work here so we might also talk about other aspects of life that may have shaped your expectations and views on what’s ‘right or wrong’
|Session 3||Conversations that Matter||We might be curious about… how you work well together and where not, how you communicate with each other; the key people and events in your life; your relationship rules, and ideas about family and gender roles and responsibilities.|
|Session 4||Conversations that Matter||We might be curious … about the strategies you use (knowingly and otherwise) to seek/avoid emotional or physical intimacy or if there are unresolved issues from the earlier days of your relationship that still affect you.|
|Session 5||Making Sense of My Story||Reflecting on all the information and insight gathered in your sessions so far, and what we’ve learned about the thoughts, behaviours and patterns that have impacting your relationship, we can start to make sense of your story and begin to think about the kinds of changes that will transform your relationship to yourself and to each other.|
|Session 6||What Now?||By the time you reach Session 6, it’s likely that you’ll already have lots of your own ideas about the kinds of changes you can make. We’ll help you to clarify what’s important to you going forward, and offer some simple steps to coach you in committing to action – even if you’re still waiting for your partner to.|
|Additional Sessions||Keeping It Up!||Your BeLoveCurious therapist will stay by your side for as long as you like, as and when you need them. In additional sessions they can help you to stay focused on what’s important to you in your love, sex and relationship life, support you as you put new strategies into practice, and help you go beyond your uniquely personal barriers so you can do your part in creating the kind of relationship you want.|