BeLoveCurious Founder Helen is featured prominently in this Daily Mail You magazine article. Journalist Ruth Tierney focuses on women who are life coaches to their friends.
In the piece, friend Marsha explains how Helen gives her the support and advice to deal with her dating dilemmas. She describes Helen’s style as non-judgmental, warm and open and says it’s Helen’s own story of “having been there and done that in terms of bad relationships” and finally finding happiness that she finds most inspiring.
When asked what her most memorable moment was, Marsha explains “it was Helen calmly sipping her tea after I’d given her the nitty-gritty on my sex life“
The Relationship Mentor
When Marsha Derevianko, 26, a blogger from London, has a dating dilemma, the first person she turns to is friend and coach Helen Rice, 48.
‘Helen will be my friend – and mentor – for life,’ says Marsha (right)
Marsha Says: The first time I met Helen on a personal development course eight years ago, I instantly sensed she was the kind of person I could open up to. She is warm and trustworthy, with a big heart. We kept in touch after the course, meeting for coffee where we would chat about whoever I was dating in a light way.
But it was in 2014 that I first really sought Helen’s advice because I was feeling stuck in a long-term relationship. On the surface Robert seemed to be the perfect guy. He was adoring, generous, faithful – an old-fashioned gentleman. My friends loved him, my mum wanted me to marry him – but I was unhappy. There were no fireworks, no tingly feelings. On the other hand, he was a good friend and would make a brilliant husband and father one day. I broached my dilemma in passing with Helen and she offered to come round to discuss it in more depth.
Helen began coming over one evening a week. We’d curl up on the sofa with homemade brownies and I’d pour my soul out as Helen listened, only offering advice if I directly asked for it. She gets to the heart of what I’m saying, then reframes it back to me. It encourages me to reflect and to discover that I already have the answer within me. I can talk to her about anything – including sex – and she never judges.
I respect Helen’s opinion because I know her history: after years of failed relationships, she found her Mr Right three and a half years ago. They are best friends and clearly so in love, and seeing them together makes me think, ‘I want some of that.’ I wouldn’t trust the advice of a friend having one-night stands.
Helen said I deserved to love wholeheartedly and that I shouldn’t settle for comfort. But plucking up the courage to end my relationship with Robert took months of talks with Helen. She was always there for me, whatever time of day or night. I could forward his emails and ask her opinion, and even called her at midnight when I was stressing out about hurting him. Helen never made me feel like a burden, while other friends lost patience.